Let Her Leave
I have finally come to a resolution regarding my sister (i.e. the backstabber). She has made decisions that have been hurtful both emotionally and financially to us but in order for me to feel better I have to release it and stop pushing against her. This does not mean that I want to hang out with her by any stretch of the imagination but I want freedom from this situation. Pushing and fighting for what I think is right isn’t going to give me that freedom. Releasing it and her - let her leave - is the only way for me at this point.
This Abraham-Hicks quote sort of sums it up well for me …
If you could get to the place where you no longer feel a need to push against anything that you disagree with–you would become in alignment with what you do agree with. Even within your own body, it is your pushing against those things you don’t agree with, that causes you to be out of alignment with what you do agree
December 11th, 2007 at 9:20 pm
Hi Deb - I keep coming across references to Abraham all the time at the moment. I think it is time I investigated further…
Thanks for linking into my ‘How To Have It All’ post. It’s one of my own favorites so I’m delighted that you and your husband like it. With regard to this present post, you might be interested in another one of mine: http://secretoflife.typepad.com/the_secret_of_life/2007/09/to-win-a-millio.html
Of course, understanding that acceptance is the only sensible course of action is one thing. Actually doing it can be rather more difficult. I can really empathize here, because my wife and I are dealing with several situations where people appear to have treated us unfairly and it *is* hard just to accept and let go. The work of Byron Katie seems to be relevant here. Are you familiar with her ideas? My wife has found them very useful in turning things like this around.
We really seem to be up to our necks in this stuff at the moment, almost as though our higher selves (or however you like to put it) are trying to teach us acceptance by giving us as much practice at difficult situations as possible! I keep thinking of one of those tennis machines throwing ball after ball at us at ridiculously high speeds. We’ll get the hang of this eventually…
And it’s probably worth all this pain, because I really believe that acceptance is the most important thing to we have learn. As I suggested in ‘How To Have It All’, once we have that, we have everything…
You seem to have a prolific blog here - keep up the good work!